Little could have prepared me for the loneliness of new motherhood. Even if someone told me, I’m not sure I would have been prepared for the isolation you feel at 2 am and you’re alone trying to get a tiny baby to latch. At that moment, the world feels very far away and out of reach. During this time, especially
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A lot of relationships change when you have a baby, and over this past year, I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting over those changing relationships. As May 9th grows closer and closer, there seems to be one relationship I keep circling back to–my relationship with my own mother. Well, let me rephrase. My relationship with my mother probably didn’t
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Whenever I told someone I hired a doula to be there with me for the birth of my son, a lot of the time it was followed up with: “What’s a doula exactly?” The dictionary definition is: “a woman, typically without formal obstetric training, who is employed to provide guidance and support to a pregnant woman during pregnancy, labor, and
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In general, there is a lot of false information about baby sleep, and in my opinion, it’s a lot of false information that sets new moms and their babies up for failure. So if you’re a new mom with a 7 week old who isn’t sleeping through the night, let me just say: you’re doing great. There’s nothing wrong with
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I know no one can care for my son like I can. My husband’s a close second, I guess. My mom and mother-in-law are up there, too. I also know that part of my calling in life is to work outside of the home. This required us to look for childcare. We were fortunate because after holding their grandbaby for
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I knew I wanted to breastfeed from the moment I found out I was pregnant. Something inside me yearned for that special connection and bond with my son. With the help of my doula, my son latched 30 minutes or so after he was born. That moment confirmed what I already knew: that breastfeeding was meant to be our journey.
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To wean or not to wean? That seems to be the question. Early on in my breastfeeding journey, even when my son was just an itty bitty newborn baby, I was asked several times (by different people), “How long do you plan on nursing?” And it’s a question that has continually come up since. It doesn’t bother me that people
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By my third trimester, I felt like if ONE more person told me “everything was going to change” after the baby was born, I was going to explode. Obviously, I knew things were going to change. Although, with most things in regards to motherhood, I did not quite grasp how different things would be. Just like I knew I was
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As long as my husband and I have been together, we’ve had at least one fur baby. Neither of us could imagine a life or a home without a dog in it. In fact, we’re suspicious of people who “don’t like dogs.” After four years of revolving our world around “children” with four legs, my husband and I decided to
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After my son was born, I experienced this strange type of grief. I felt myself grieving that he was no longer so close to me, that he was now living outside my body. It was a little strange because after nine months I thought I was SO ready to not be pregnant anymore. That grief slowly left and was replaced
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