Tips for Surviving the Fourth Trimester

If you’re newly postpartum or soon to be, I can almost guarantee your Google search history is or will be filled with questions about how to do this whole “mom thing.” From the color of your new baby’s poo to how many hours they should be sleeping, you’ll constantly be looking for answers and wondering what the heck you’re doing! Motherhood comes with many worries, and in the early days, we’re all just trying to survive. That’s why I’m sharing my top tips for surviving the first months of motherhood, so you can better navigate the fourth trimester, stay sane, and remind yourself that you’re never alone. At some point, every mom feels exactly as you do right now!
First, welcome to motherhood! It’s the most worrying and rewarding thing you’ll ever do, and it’s worth every second of what you might be going through! Secondly, that does not mean you have to do it all alone; ask for help and accept it when it’s offered! Trust me now when I say that little voice in your head that says “you can do it all” and “asking for help is lazy” is a LIAR. This is something that I took
way too long to learn; raising a child takes a village, so use yours! I promise you they’re all always willing to help!
Cliche, I know, but this might be the only time you get some good shut-eye in those early days. So forget those dishes and the never-ending piles of laundry and just SLEEP! This is your time to forget everything and snuggle that baby — the rest of the world can and will wait.
Make your and your partner’s life easier during early postpartum by being prepared! Stock your freezer with pre-made meals and fill your pantry with easy-to-grab snacks! Prepping meals before the baby comes will help reduce your mental load and leave one less thing for you to do while you’re recovering and getting to know your new babe!
Becoming a mother can take a massive toll on a woman’s sense of self. Going from being solely responsible for yourself to nourishing a new baby can be simultaneously amazing and isolating. It’s easy to get wrapped up in what it means to be a mother, to fit that mold and make it your whole identity–but it doesn’t have to be. Motherhood doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself; you can love your baby and still take time for yourself. If motherhood has taught me anything, it’s that my babies are what drives me; they make me eager to pour into my cup so I can show up every day as the best version of myself. So join that class or start that new hobby: invest in yourself, and remember, you’re more than “just a mom!”
Taking care of a baby can be exhausting, so share the load. Take turns and delegate different tasks between yourself and your partner. Give each other breaks during nighttime feeds or take shifts waking up with the baby! Communicating a plan to tackle this new adventure together will keep you both happy and sane!
In the early days of motherhood, it’s easy to get wrapped up in worrying; I remember bringing my first baby home and thinking, “am I doing this right?!” My mind ran a mile a minute, still not believing I was responsible for this new life. Nobody really knows what they’re doing–but you know your baby best, so give yourself some grace. You’ll figure it out along the way, and remember you don’t have to do it all! You don’t have to do anything, for that matter. Your only job right now is taking care of yourself and your baby! So, congratulations, mama! You’re doing great and you are the best mom for your baby! Remember to take time for yourself, share the load, and give yourself some grace! We’re all just doing our best; the newborn stage goes by fast. Don’t miss it worrying.

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