An Unforgettable Reflection: My Issues Don’t Have to be My Children’s Issues
Is wanting your significant other to succeed really about him or her? Or is it about you? The passionate interest in their hobbies and appearance seems destructive – to see the least. Children couldn’t possibly bear the judgment of a fully grown adult. Simply: let them be. Let them be themselves, they have the rest of their lives to figure out who they are, and what skills and talents they could infinitely possess. Don’t rule their lives like a dictator, do not judge them for who they are. Just – let them be.
Key Takeaways:
- I would kindly (and often not so kindly) instruct him on what to wear, how to eat healthy, and how often to exercise.
- My preoccupation with appearance, social status, fitting in, and gaining approval were my issues – he was just an easier target.
- My critiques typically fell on a continuum of mildly constructive to downright destructive, depending how stressed I felt at the time.
“Why would I want her to go through life wondering what other people thought of her when she was quite happy with WHO SHE WAS.”