The woman in the article reflects on how every May new feelings of grief arise form the death of her older brother. She then begins to note how after she has her son her feelings of grief have changed. She constantly sees her brother in her child. She is also confronted with new grief of how if her brother was alive, how would it effect her child? She eventually concludes that grief adapts and changes over time but always leaves an absence in your heart.

Key Takeaways:

• May is always a hard month in my family. Each year that passes it stings a little differently, some years harder than others, but this year has a new layer.
• A son that shares my brother’s name for his middle name. When he moves his head in just the right way, I see my brother.
• I thought about the feeling of having a son after what my parents experienced losing theirs.

“Grief leaves you with memories, your imagination and an absent space in your heart.”

Read more: http://www.hellobee.com/2017/05/15/how-grief-takes-a-new-shape-when-you-have-children/