I think we can all unanimously agree: the holiday season is one of the most chaotic times of the year. We spend weeks rushing around in preparation: planning meals, perfecting decorations, and promptly cleaning once-neglected areas of the house before guests arrive. We willingly tidy, trim, and toil in anticipation of the magic that the month of December tends to bring. And when it finally comes, we surrender ourselves to get swept up in the enchantment of those sparkling winter nights where time seems to stand still, friends and family reunite, and our children’s eyes twinkle with wonder. 

But of course, like most things, the holiday season can also be just as challenging as it is cherished. Maybe you’re going through a rough season, experienced loss, or had to confront a childhood trauma that left you feeling triggered, tired, and drained. Perhaps you’re relieved that the holidays are over, and you’re ready to step into a new season and find a fresh start. You’re not a grinch; you’re human, and sometimes the holidays can also be the hardest time of the year. 

Regardless of what your relationship is with the holiday season, I think it’s safe to say that we all feel a little bit disoriented by the time they’re over. I can only speak for myself, but the holidays and surrounding weeks always seem to knock me off my game. I sleep in late, snack on cakes like they’re carrot sticks, and wear stretchy pants for every occasion. So it’s no surprise that when it’s time to get back to my daily grind, I often find myself asking, “Wait. What the heck IS my daily grind?” 

If you, too, are experiencing a holiday season hangover (literally, figuratively, or both!), here are some suggestions to help you step into the new year without the one-horse open sleigh.

Rest

I know. You’ve presumably spent more time in your pajamas this past week than your toddler, so you’re probably asking yourself why you need to rest. But the truth is, aside from all the effort that goes into planning for the holidays– all the parties, dinners, and gift exchanges can be extremely emotionally exhausting. All my introverts understand; sometimes, we need to stop and recharge our social-batteries before they burn out completely. And even if you like to be the life of every party, a little quiet time can help you mellow out and reclaim your calm.

Reestablish Routine 

This one is rough, but it has to be done. Get back to your regular routine as soon as possible. This means enforcing bedtimes, and not just your kids, but also your own. Start going to bed and waking up at your regular hours. If you were on a daily exercise routine that got demolished by the holidays, now is the time to restart. Gently remind your kids that they can’t always eat double-chocolate cake for dinner (unless that’s a commonality in your house, in which case, good for them.) Do yourself a favor, and get back to the rhythm of regular life ASAP. Because like it or not, you’re a responsible adult, and that’s just what you do.

Rock Your Resolution

I know people have mixed feelings about New Year’s resolutions, but there is something so symbolic about a new year that makes us feel like we have a fresh start. So if you decided to set a resolution this year, it’s time to rock it. Sign up for that marathon, take that language class, teach yourself how to crochet. Dive right in! After all, accomplishing a goal doesn’t happen in one big moment, but in a million little moments. And those million little moments are here and happening now. Happy 2020!