You can read all those “what to expect with your new baby” books, get advice from other parents, go,to birthing classes, and catch up on the latest how to care for your baby blogs you want when the truth is you learn as you go. Not every birthing experience is the same, not every newborn is born like a robot to follow those baby book guidelines. Your newborn may like a pacifier, want to be swaddled, may like car rides to fall asleep, may have colic, may just want to be held all he time, you learn the techniques that work for you and your newborn as you go.

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